The Problem with Good People
Muse Monday 2/6/2023
Hello, and welcome to my weekly newsletter! I'm thrilled you were able to be there. Every day I keep my Zap Pad with me and jot down everything I learned this week or thought was interesting. On Mondays, I review my top 5–10 entries and write about them in order to share what I learned. It's what I refer to as "Muse Monday."
The Problem with Good People
It can be easy to think of good people as people who are perfect and always make the right decisions. However, this isn't always true. Just like everyone else, good people can make mistakes and sometimes have bad intentions. The key is to remember that being a good person doesn't mean being perfect; it means being aware of your mistakes and learning from them. I think it's honestly harder to be a good person than a bad one—yes, if you're a bad one, everyone will hate you, but when you're kind and good, people tend to expect things from you, and although they are liked by everyone, they are twice as easily disliked.
Managing Fake Overconfidence
Fake overconfidence can be a real problem when trying to progress in life. Believe me, I would know—for the longest time, I was overconfident. It's easy to feel like you know more than you actually do, and this can lead to making bad decisions or not taking risks when you should. But the worst part about it is that it's not true confidence. Most of the time, it's weak, unstructured confidence that is reliant on something else instead of being deep within. For example, when I was overconfident, I always thought I was so confident, and I knew what it meant to be confident, but my confidence was actually rooted in high school popularity, and the second I graduated, I realized I was never truly confident at all.
Embrace Imperfections as Much as the Pursuit of Perfection
It's easy to get caught up in the pursuit of perfection and forget that imperfections are what make us unique and special. It's important to embrace your imperfections just as much as you embrace your pursuit of perfection. There is a balance between accepting who you are and who you want to be, and it takes real self-understanding and control to know how to strike it, but once you do, you will be invincible. I am on this journey right now, and although I am far from where I need to be, I find it helpful to think that I am happy and content with where I am, and anything I get that is better isn't because I needed it but because I deserved it.
Thinking without learning is dangerous.
It is often said that knowledge is power, but it can also be dangerous if you don't learn from it. Thinking without learning can have serious consequences. We are in a generation that is constantly being fed information, and when it comes to learning something, we can get stuck trying to learn everything, feeling as if we are doing something when in reality we are not—we are (excuse my French) mentally masturbating.
People require something stupid in order to survive.
We all need something stupid in our lives in order to survive. This is something my partner said to me, and it stuck. Whether it's a silly joke, a dumb decision, or some other form of foolishness, it's important to take some time for yourself and do something that makes no sense whatsoever—just because it feels good! This is something I have struggled with for some time; I am a person of facts and logic, and often I lose sight of how stupid the world should really be. I once heard a quote by Oscar Wilde saying
Life is too important to be taken seriously.
and I couldn't agree more—I hope this will give you perspective and remind you that life isn't always serious and that it's okay to have fun every now and then.
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
Worrying can be a destructive habit if left unchecked, but it can also be productive if used in the right way. The key is to know when enough is enough and when it's time to stop worrying and start living. I recommend you take some time each day to focus on the positive things in life, appreciate what you have, and let go of the things you can't control. This will help you find balance in life and enjoy the present moment instead of worrying about what could happen in the future.
These are just a few of the insights I've gained this week. I'm always learning and growing, and I'm excited to share what I've learned with all of you. Thanks for joining me on this Muse Monday journey, and I look forward to learning more together in the weeks to come!
Question of the week: Are you content with who you are?
Leave a comment and let me know your answer, or just let me know what you thought of this week's Muse Monday. I'm Ace; I hope I have served you well, and thanks for reading.